A week before Christmas of 1967 I received my midterm report card from Our Lord’s Health High School on the South Shore of Boston. Having a stutter and stammer I had been expecting worst, however Bruder Karl had graciously passed me with a D+ in German. He loved that I read Rilke's poetry. Brother Valentine had seen no merit in my reciting verses from Virgil's "Aeneid" and failed me in religion. I was going to lose my full scholarship.
“Sorry.” I showed my mother the report card in the kitchen. My brothers and sisters were in the den watching TV.
"You failed religion?" Her eyes blinked in disbelief.
"Yes."
“What is wrong with you?”
“Nothing.” I hadn’t the nerve to tell her the truth.
“Nothing?”
“I t-t-t-tried my best.”
“Yes, I know you did, but explain how do you get an F in religion?” My mother had me on the stand.
“I got a 90 average in the t-t-t-tests.”
“What about your homework?”
“A+.” These results weren’t enough to overcome my one failure for Brother Valentine.
“Then how can an ex-altar boy get an F?” My mother threw the report card on the table.
I had served Masses throughout grammar school as a non-believer.
"I don't know," I answered, since I couldn't tell her the truth. I had refused the brother's for after-school lessons, but there was something even worse for a devout Catholic.
"Even Stalin didn't failed religion and he was an altar boy too." My mother hated the communists.
“I know.” I fought off the urge to say that Stalin had been a bank robber too.
“What will Nana say?”
Up to now I had been a good Irish-Catholic boy.
“Why do you have to t-t-tell Nana?" My Irish grandmother's faith rose with the sun and burned deep into her sleep.
"Telling her that you failed religion will ruin her Christmas." My mother picked up the phone.
“P-p-please d-d-don’t call Nana.” My Irish grandmother prayed for my soul every day.
“Heavens forbid I call my mother, but I’m getting to the bottom of this F.” Her finger angrily spun the Princess phone dial and she said to the person answering her call, “I’d like to speak with Brother Valentine."
"P-p-p-please don't," I begged, since not having a scholarship meant my transfer to a town high school with girls. A normal life.
"Go to the living room.”
Whatever she had to say to my teacher was for adults and I sat on the plastic-covered sofa.
Five minutes later the telephone was racked in the receiver. She entered the living room and stared at me with disbelief.
“Brother Valentine said he failed you, because you don’t believe in God.”
"Yes."
"And you lost your scholarship?" The devout Catholic had been so proud of my winning free tuition to Xaverian. She thought I might become a priest like my Nana's brother, Father Mike.
“I got all As in the tests and did all my homework. I don’t deserve that F.”
“But you don’t believe in God. Tell me that isn't true."
"I have doubts." My refusal of his advances had also doomed my sophomore year.
"Brother Valentine didn't say doubts. He said disbelief. Which is it?"
I shut my eyes like a parachutist jumping out of a perfectly good plane.
"Disbelief."
"My son is a disbeliever. An atheist." Her right hand signed the cross and a sigh left her lungs, as if her breath had been seized by the Devil. The Church had burned heretics for challenging the divinity of Jesus and atheism was an even greater anathema than communism in Cold War America.
"You're fourteen years-old. How can you know if you don't believe in God?"
"I decided three seconds after you told me, "Chaney is dead."
At the age of eight in 1960, my best friend had drowned in Sebago Lake. Chaney and I had vowed never to swim unless we were together. He was in Maine. I was on the South Shore.
"I prayed to God to save him. To bring Chaney back from the dead, but God didn't save him."
Also to forgive me for swimming at Nantasket Beach. Everything was all my fault. I was all-fallible.
"God moves in strange ways."
"More like he doesn't move at all."
“But you were an altar boy.” Her head spun with my blasphemy. to her faith.
“I did it for you.” I also served, because my older brother and I received $5 for funerals and up to $20 for weddings.
“Your teacher said if you recant your atheism, he will give you a B and your scholarship will be reinstated.”
My girlfriend attended the town high school and failing religion seemed like the fastest way to end my Catholic schoolboy career. I told my mother, “I can’t do that.”
“Why not?” She was not used to any resistance to her will.
“I don’t believe in God.” The Christian God had exterminated non-believers. Genocide was wrong. I believed in anything, but Him.
“Wait till your father gets home.”
“Yes, ma’am.”
My father had never hit me in my life. Corporal punishment was my mother’s job. My fear of the Maine native was derived on the desire for his love and I had a tendency to make mistakes.
That evening I waited on the front steps for my father. I thought about running away, but the night was bitterly cold for December and I liked sleeping in a warm bed. My father walked up to the house. He was an electrical engineer. They liked order and he groaned upon seeing my face, “Now what?”
“I failed religion.”
“How did you fail religion?” He had played football in college. Discipline was a key to survival in his world. Obedience, punctuality, good grades, and saying our prayers were all he expected from his children.
“I don’t b-b-believe in God.” I struggled with each word. I possessed several wicked speech defects.
"Since when?"
"Since Chaney died."
That long?"
The summer of 1960 was only seven years ago."
"It took a few year to free my soul."
"And you don't believe a force ruling the universe?"
"Maybe gravity and the speed of light, sir." I was good in math, but rejected the infallibility of any law of science other than 1 + 1 = 2 or the power of zero to negate all numbers and formulas. I scored As in math.
"Heaven and hell?"
"Fairy tales," I told him my truth, hoping he kept that from my mother.
"You're going against the beliefs of most of the people on Earth."
"I know." I had calculated that there might be a million atheists on the planet. Not many, but I was one of that not many.
None of them lived in my hometown.
"This is a big problem for your mother. What are you going to do?"
"Whatever she wants." I lied. Obedience was the path of least resistance.
"Good boy, but try and keep an open mind about God."
"You're not mad."
"I'm mad, if I know what's good for me." My father had converted from the Episcopal Church to marry my mother. His faith in the Holy Roman Church was almost as young as me. He pulled me to my feet.
“If that is what you believe, then that’s up to you, but don’t expect any Christmas gifts this year. Christmas is for Christians.”
My mother and he had words that night. My older brother cupped his hands over his ears. Frunk was a believer, but didn’t criticize my decision. He had been Chaney’s friend too.
Christmas morning I received no gifts and our family attended the 8 O’Clock Mass. The pastor’s sermon was dedicated to Christ’s birth of divinity. His eyes fell on me several times. I didn’t not take communion. My mother told her friends that I was sick, but the rumors of my heretical stance were spreading around town. In 1964 Life magazine referred to Madalyn Murray O'Hair as "the most hated woman in America". ... "Woman, Atheist, Anarchist". I had to keep my stance secret.
My girlfriend stood by me. Kyla loved me more than she loved God.
My Nana came to Christmas Eve dinner with the rest of my relatives. Father Mike never came to our house. He was now a monsignor. Uncle Jack, an ex-marine and a lawyer. He spoke in conspiratorial whispers with my mother. They looked at me and shook their heads. Everyone in my family was deeply religious. Nana knew nothing and gave me a Realistic transistor radio at the end of the meal. She used to take my brother and I into the city. The trolley to Forest Hills. A subway to Washington Street. Confess our sins and light candles at St. Anthony's Shrine, where she prayed a rosary in Gaelic, then hot dogs at WT Grants, and a movie at Loew's Orpheum. I loved her so much and at the end of the dinner I kissed her with all my love. She blessed me with the rosary at the door, then left to be driven home to Jamaica Plains by Uncle Jack.
"And you want to hurt that woman?" my mother murmured behind my back.
"No." It was the truth, but I was godless.
"Then Christmas would be a good day to rejoin the Church."
"I'll think about," I said, giving her a wrapped box.
It contained a silver chain and cross.
She loved it almost as much as my wavering.
After New Year’s the phone rang every morning. The Xaverian brothers pleaded for my soul.
“Come back to the faith and we’ll give back your scholarship.” The Vice-Principal was playing good guy. The Dean of Discipline wanted to make me an example for the rest of the school by burning me as a heretic, but he wasn't after my soul. Only my body. I was never going to say 'mea culpa' or forgive me. I had done nothing wrong and told the brothers in the principal's office..
“I don’t believe in God.” I belonged somewhere other than an all-boys high school and that was closer to Kyla at the public high school.
"Then you'll be damned to Hell." The Vice Principal switched to bad guy with the ease Dr. Jekyll becoming Mr. Hyde.
Things got rough during the Christmas Holidays. Old friends players in my hometown called me a commie faggot. I was neither yet.
Xaverian suggested to my parents that I see a psychiatrist from the arch-dioccese.
I agreed to this experiment for my mother's sake.
On a cold gray January afternoon my parents drove over to Commonwealth Avenue in our Delta 88. None of us spoke on the ride and reaching Commonwealth Avenue I looked out the window at the long-haired hippie girls of BU. They had been the inspiration for the Standells’ 1965 hit DIRTY WATER.
We arrived at the Jesuit seminary in Brighton ten minutes before our appointment. Like my father my mother was as devoted to punctuality as she was to God. We parked before the Order of Jesus' main building. Snow covered the lawn. She said nothing.
I got out of the car. The cardinal lived on these grounds. He chanted the Rosary over the radio every evening at 5. My mother joined his raspy voice along with thousands of other Catholics around Boston. He had anointed me on my Holy Confirmation and awarded me my scholarship certificate. I lowered my head hoping that he wouldn’t see me and walked to the building. My father accompanied me up the shoveled waalk to the door.
“You’re my son. I will always love you, but you know how I feel about God. Please have an open mind.”
“I'll try.”
"You're not coming in?"
This is all on you. One more thing. Don’t slouch in the chair.” My father was a stickler for a good impression.
“Yes, sir.”
The diocesan shrink had an office on the second floor. A chubby man in a black robe met me at the door.
"I'm Brother Bob. Please sit down.” He pointed to a pair of leather chairs and shut the door.
I sat, but said nothing. The fat man's head was covered by a thick mat of hair. The color didn't match his sideburns.
"We both know why you're here." Bob sat next to me. He was sweating as if his soul was burning in Hell. “I’ve read your file. I see this problem all the time. Normally we let Satan have the apostates, but it concerns the Cardinal when a gifted boy loses his faith. You were an altar boy and attended a few retreats for boys with a calling."
I looked at the huge crucifix hanging on the wall and then out the window. The room was too warm and the chair was too comfortable for a meeting about a young man's soul.
“Do you believe the Bible?”
I remained silent. Saying nothing. No words could be used against me.
“Are you going to tell me why you don’t believe in God?” He leaned forward and his swollen fingers rested on my knees. The tips massaged my lower thighs. I pushed his hands off my lap. He was shocked by my rejection. Suddenly a greater sinner than a juvenile heretic.
“I see you.”
“Jesus loves you and His truth will set you.” His right hand righted the wig on his head.
“Why should I tell the truth to a man who lies to himself about being bald.”
"Bald?"
"Yes, and you're wearing a rug." I stood up and ripped the toupee off his skull.
“You’re damned.”
“You only believe in Jesus, so that He will cure your baldness.” I threw the wig in his face and exited from the office.
I walked back to the Olds defiant faithful to my lack of belief. I spotted my mother in the Olds. She was praying for my soul and my father stared into the snowy distance. I had rejected the Holy Trinity, heaven, purgatory, hell, The Eucharist, the Infallibility of the Pope, the Blessed Virgin, and all the teachings of the Holy Roman Church. My duty on Earth had ceased The Baltimore Catechism's essential edict to love, serve, and obey God for years.
My birth had taken twenty-two hours. My mother had gone down to the Valley of Death to bring me life and I wished that I was still a six year-old boy in a white communion suit. Chaney had worn a similar suit for our Holy Communion. We fought that spring day. He had made fun of my red velvet collar. My mother had ordered me to say that I was sorry. I did just that. He was my best friend and still was. Dead or alive.
I opened the door and sat in the back seat, knowing the next few minutes would be hell on earth for at least two of the three of us.
“How did it go?” My father started up the engine. The 88 had a big V-8. It wasn't loud enough to drowned out my answer.
“Not good. The man said I was damned.”
“Damned?” The word struck my mother’s heart.
“He’s not a priest. He can’t damn me.”
“My son damned by the Church.” Her hands covered her mouth in shock.
"I’m sorry.”
“Sorry is not going to save you from Hell," my mother cried into her palms.
“The man touched me.” My only defense was the truth.
“Touched you?” My father turned around and studied my face for deception. He had never lied to me and I tried to return that gift to the best of my ability.
“He touched my leg and not in a nice way.”
“You’re saying he touched you.” My father tightened his fist. “No one touches my son.”
My father had nothing against queers. Arthur across the street lived with a friend. They had served in Korea together. Arthur took care of his mother. Neighbors whispered that he was not like the rest of the men in the neighborhood, but that didn’t stop my father from playing tennis with him or our swimming in his pool.
“Are you telling the truth?”
“Yes, sir.” I felt bad. I was an atheist, not a snitch.
“I have to make a phone call.” My father drove to the nearest phone booth and parked the car.
“Who are you calling?” My mother asked softly.
“Uncle Jack. He'll know what to do."
Uncle Jack was a lawyer.
"We can't sue the Church."
"No one is suing anyone." My father got out of the car.
"Now see what you've done?"
My mother cried into a handkerchief.
"Yes, ma'am," I answered, but breathed easy. I was closer than ever to attending a public school.
Several days later my Uncle Jack and I sat in the hallway outside the principal’s office. He was prepared for a fight. He looked at me and sadi, "I was young like you once."
He was probably thirty-five.
"I was taught by the nuns, I was an altar boy, I went to Boston College High School with the Jesuits. I was just like you> I had my doubts. Not like you, but I never really worried about God, until I was sent to Korea as a First Lieutenant."
"In the Marines." I wanted to join the Corps. Not to fight Communist, but to get out of my town. Only Kayla was keeping me here.
"I don't talk about the war or God, but we were sent to the frontline. It was winter. Colder than here now. two-hundred plus soldiers and ten officers. A colonel ordered us to hold the line. I was scared, but not praying to God scared. Then that night the Chinese Commies attacked in the thousands with bugles blaring. Coming at us from everywhere. I started praying to God. Help me. Help me. Men died. I killed men. I never stopped praying. In the dawn we were down to seventeen men and I was the only officer left. Thousands of dead bodies lay in the valley. God saved me or my prayers did. I fought for you. But also for whatever you believe."
Thanks."
"And you still don't believe?"
"100%."
"And what you told me about the brotehrs touching boys is true?"
"Yes."
"Then I'm ready for combat."
The door opened and the Dean of Discipline waved us inside. Brother Valentine sat with the principal, who asked us to sit.
"We'll stand. We are not going to be here long."
The ex-Marine told Brother Valentine of the freedoms of speech and religion guaranteed under the Constitution. He loved the idea of fighting the Church on this issue and his record in court was well-known throughout the state of Massachusetts.
Only the previous year Uncle Jack had won $500,000 for a deaf girl in a suit against the nuns for torturing their students. Surrender was less costly than fighting accusations of molestation and the brothers folded like a wet newspaper.
My religion teacher changed the F to a B+. Brother Karl’s D+ remained a D+. It was an honest grade. My scholarship was reinstated to half to seal the deal and Uncle Jack advised to keep my atheism to myself.
"Especially around your mother and Nana."
Yes, sir."
I wished that the brothers had stuck to their guns and I had been thrown out of school, but my girlfriend was happy that I remained at Our Lord’s Health. Kyla liked her space. We stayed together until our senior year and religion had little to do with our faith in each other. I attended Mass with my parents until graduation from high school. After that only on Holidays.
Uncle Jack became a judge. My mother prayed for my soul to the end. My father stopped attending church only because he disagreed with a priest's sermon against queers. MY youngest brother was gay. was sick.
Over the years I have explained that my lack of belief does not subtract from my spirituality. In 1995 I had visited the most holy sites on Earth to expiate the sins of my deceased baby brother as well as mine ven swimming in the ganges at Varanasi and in 2008 I was proud upon hearing President Obama mention non-believers in his inaugural speech.
Our numbers within the USA have grown to 20 million strong since 1971 and we are getting stronger, despite IN GOD WE TRUST on the dollar.
Two summers ago I was at a pool party at my doctor’s house on Staten Island. We had attended a big Catholic college in Boston. Nick was BBQing burgers and Italian sausages. I was glad to be out of Brooklyn and intended on sleeping over in the basement bedroom.
After three Margaritas and a glass of wine I told his wife the story of my scholarship. Her religion was a comfort to her and I said nothing to disparage her devotion, so Rose laughed at the funny parts. We knew each other over twenty years.
Her husband told me to cool it.
"I have a hard enough time getting my four children to attend Sunday Mass without you preaching the beauty of sleeping later on the Lord's Day."
"I can't blame them." Sleeping late had been my favorite refuge from religion as a teenager.
Two parents had overheard my discourse against organized religion and the father said, "Our ten year-old son is a non-believer."
"And you want him to be a believer?"
"No, we were wondering if you could you talk to him, so he knows he’s not alone.” said the mother, despite her obvious concern her son's divorce from the norm.
"Are you believers?"
"Yes, but we have tried everything with Charlie and we want him to feel good with his choice."
"You do?"
"Yes. Do you mind talking with him?"
“No problem.” I walked over to the young boy playing a video game in a poo; chair.
The other kids were cannonballing into the water.
Charlie looked like he was winning his game, which probably meant killing thousands of aliens or zombies.
“Your parents wanted me to speak to you?” I flashed back to the shrink in 1967.
I still had a full head of hair.
“About what?” he sighed, as if he had more than one problem.
“God.”
He lowered his head and sighed with resignation, “Are you a priest?”
“No, an atheist. I don’t believe in God and I wanted to tell you that not believing won’t kill you.”
I kept my spiel short and sweet. Ten year-old boys rarely want to hear anything from a man in his fifties. I certainly hadn’t at his age, but I didn't have a sweep-over.
"Everything will be fine." It had been for me.
“Thanks mister.” Charlie was genuinely relieved when I stopped talking.
Religion and especially lack of religion was a private matter best left to the soul.
“No worries. I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone."
"I already know that." He motioned to two kids at the end of the patio. They were Goths.
"Then have a good life."
I took off my shirt and bellyflopped into the pool. The impact wave washed over the rim. Nick's children screamed with delight and I almost felt like Moses parting the Red Sea, but only almost like Moses. The prophet had a big beard, but was reputed by Exodus to be bald. I got out of the pool and pushed back my hair. The kids screeched for a repetition of my feat.
“Only if we do it together.” I pointed to the young atheist.
The others called Charlie by name.
He put down his video game carefully to not let it get wet.
“On the count of one, two, three. Cannonball.”
Our combined impact created a wave to rock Noah's Ark and I broke surface with a smile. Charlie too.
It was good to be a kid again. I only wished that Chaney was with me, then again he was with me always, because memories of the Here-Before live forever in the Here-Now.
I only have one photo of Chaney Noyes. He exists always as the boy who showed me a basket of baby puppies, ran through Falmouth Foresides, Maine without a care in the world and he lives with every day.
That is the beauty of eternity.
Foto from Pine Grover Primary, Falmouth Foresides, Maine 1960
